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I'm Steffy, and I live in my favorite place on earth, Long Beach NY with my two loves & our dachshund. In this space we share our adventures around NY, cozy days at home and tons of outfits! Grab a cup of coffee and lets get to know each other!


Monday, November 28, 2016

Something Sweet for Someone Sweet ...

Dads are tough to get gifts for. My dad has pretty much everything - an entire closet full of enviable shoes, tons of Robert Graham button ups (which are his favorite, and were fool proof as a gift until he owned most of them) and every toy a guy could ever want from a boat to the vintage Chester O'chimp dolls he collects from ebay. Is your dad this hard to get gifts for?

This year I am extra thankful for him, because he and my mom rented a home down the street from us to be around after Hudson was born for an entire month. After feeling stumped over what to get him, I realized the one thing he will always love is chocolate! He's a sweets lover like me, and a nice box of chocolates could never fail!

Enter merci. merci chocolate is all about expressing heartfelt gratitude, and the adorable custom holiday inserts makes them even more fun to hand out to those you're thankful for, because you can customize them. You can also print a 'merci list' which allows you to checkoff those on your holiday gift list easily!

If you're looking to give someone sweet something sweet this holiday season, visit merci HERE.

*This post is in partnership with merci, but all opinions are my own! 
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Friday, November 25, 2016

My Top Black Friday Finds + Gift Guide

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I am not a huge fan of crowds, so i've been loving shopping all of these sales from my bed! Here's a few of my favorite promotions, and some of my top finds for less! Hope this helps you with some holiday shopping!

J.Crew: Everything is 40% off!

Boden: 30% off

Madewell: 25% off everything!

Urban Outfitters: buy 1 get 1 50% off!

Minted: 20% off Holiday Cards!

Wayfair: Up to 80% off

West Elm: Buy more, save more - up to 30% off

Happy Shopping!

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Wednesday, November 23, 2016

NYC Holiday Shopping With Hudson & Uber

Everything becomes more challenging to accomplish with a newborn. There's certain things I just know we'll have to skip this year, like visiting the tree in Rockefeller center because of the crowds, but I am feeling super accomplished after tackling some holiday shopping with Hudson in tow! It was his first time in NYC, and we couldn't have done it without the help of UberX.

With Hudson being so little, the subways are totally off-limits. We love how easy it is to get around thanks to Uber, and knowing that the driver is safe . It's great to be able to see exactly when the driver is pulling up, and the drivers contact info for accountability in case anything were to happen. It puts all of my 'new mom fears" to rest. 

I hated the idea of not having a car seat when entering a car in the city, and luckily Uber Family Profiles now allows us moms to select a car with a carseat inside. When booking your car, all you have to do is select the "car seat" option, and it's only a $10 surcharge. Enter the promo code CARSEATNYC10 to get your first car seat surcharge-free! If you have any questions, there's more info here

We grabbed an Uber in lower manhattan and hopped on over to Soho to pick up some holiday goodies at Madewell. The Madewell on Broadway is my favorite, and I was so excited to find some cute gifts for family (my mom is just as hooked on Madewell as I am). 

We stopped by Irving Farm coffee roasters for some latte's before heading home. Hudson napped while we fueled up on caffeine. It felt so good to bring my baby to one of my favorite places, NYC, and I am so glad that UberX made traveling to the city with a newborn so much less daunting - plus we tackled tons of holiday shopping!

Thanks to Uber for sponsoring this post!
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Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Red Hook, Brooklyn

I've been feeling comfortable enough to whip out the boob and adventure into the world with our baby boy. We changed him in the trunk of the car, I fed him on a bench in a park looking out at the statue of liberty, and this whole parenting thing is starting to get a little easier. Red Hook is one of our favorite places in Brooklyn - there's good BBQ at hometown, delicious pastries at Baked, the best key lime pie around and the views are insane. 

It felt good to venture out into the fresh air... and to WEAR OVERALLS. :)

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Thursday, November 17, 2016

Where I Found Baby Gear That Fits My Aesthetic

Back when we lived in Miami, there was a Jonathan Adler store in the Design District that we used to frequent. I always loved his quirky design style, so when I found out he was designing a capsule collection of baby gear, I knew it would fit in perfectly to our home.

One of my biggest fears about having a baby was having our space taken over by bright colored, loud plastic toys. I enjoy living in a well-curated and organized home, so it's a relief to find toys that I don't mind taking over our space! The best part is how high-tech each piece is - like this mobile has a remote, so we can turn it on in the middle of the night without getting out of bed! Lifesaver. Plus Hudson looks SO cute playing with all of his new gear, and we can't wait to watch him grow with it.

This Rock n' Play Sleeper fits in so well, we can't remember what the room looked like before it came into our lives! haha! It also connects to our iPhones, which is a huge plus, and it rocks and plays music when you plug it in. The rock n' play we looked at beforehand needed batteries, so the fact that it just plugs in was enough to get me on board. 

You can shop the new Jonathan Adler X Fisher Price collection exclusively at buybuyBABY here

Thank you to heymama + Fisher Price for partnering on this post! 

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Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Fresh Air & Fall Leaves w/ Rockport

Thanks to and Rockport for partnering on this post! 

One of my biggest priorities after labor was to take care of myself and find the time to get dressed every day, and get out of the house. I know, maybe I am crazy for being unable to sit still in PJ's, but I love this time of the year, and I hate the feeling of doing nothing. We've been taking Hudson on tons of beautiful Fall walks at local parks, and on the boardwalk near our house!

I have been wearing all of my coziest clothes for "mom" duties, including these Rockport Cobb Hill Bethany boots from I love the oxblood coloring on them, and they easily zip right on, making it quick to get dressed! I love that they're stylish but still comfortable and rugged enough to take on walks through the leaves - plus I ordered them from with free shipping and a 365-day return policy!

The leaves are slowly all falling off the trees, and even though I'll miss them, I am excited that the holidays are right around the corner. My whole family will be up here for Thanksgiving with us this year, which will be so much fun! Especially since my brothers will be able to meet Hudson.

Can't wait to share some fun holiday content soon!

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Monday, November 14, 2016

Hudson's Birth Story

It is hard to put the experience of laboring a baby into words, and while I am usually not sappy or overly maternal, the experience changed me. It changed my marriage. It changed my body. It changed my entire life. It's something that was so difficult, but so worth it, and I couldn't imagine living life not experiencing it. Here goes, here is my story:

On Saturday, November 5th Matt and I went down the block to my aunt Elisa's house to watch a movie with my relatives and my parents, and eat some takeout. At this point I was 40 weeks + 6 days pregnant and SO uncomfortable and ready to give birth. I'd been 3 cm dilated for weeks, which didn't help. At around 6PM I noticed I was having what I thought were Braxton Hicks, but they started to come closer together. When I timed them, they were 5 minutes apart for the entire movie! I couldn't believe it! They taught us in our birthing class that the rule was 5 minutes in between 1 minute contractions for an hour means you can go to the hospital, and when I called my doctor she said to go to Labor and Delivery! We couldn't believe it, we were going to have our baby.

We drove calmly to the hospital (my contractions were regular, but not painful) listening to Iron & Wine, the soundtrack we had for all of our wedding songs and we talked about how peaceful this all seems compared to the movies. When we got to the hospital they checked me into triage to be assessed, and hooked me up to a non-stress test. .. but they sent us home shortly after. It was a huge bummer. They said my contractions were regular, but they needed to also be very painful, so I needed to let labor progress and come back when they hurt and were 2-3 minutes apart. 

That night, I actually was able to sleep like a rock. I woke up at 7AM and walked the entire boardwalk in Long Beach (5 miles). Matt and I had brunch at my other aunts house with a ton of my family, and that's when the contractions started to feel more like cramps. When we left brunch, we went for a walk around our neighborhood, and I started to feel the contractions radiating in my back. It hurt, but was totally bearable. We went back to my aunts house down the block for another dinner (everyone laughed at us for our fake labor the night before, of course!) and my pain began to progress. I knew it was time to go home and be alone with just Matt and I when my dad started to annoy me, because him and I are close and he never bothers me!

When we came home, I walked on the treadmill in our building for a while. When I came back down to our apartment, suddenly the contractions went from 0-8 super quickly, and they were coming 3 minutes apart. That's when we grabbed our things and went to the hospital!

The hospital check-in felt like it took forever, because at that point my contractions were so strong I couldn't sit or stand through them, all I could do was kneel in pain. When they assessed me in triage they told me I was 4cm dilated, which was a bummer because the pain was SO bad already. The nurse gave me two options - walk around and re-check in an hour or two later, or receive an epidural and become admitted. The thought of how bad my contractions could be in another hour pushed me toward the decision to go for the epidural, even though I always thought I'd go natural. I told myself I had nothing to prove to anyone, and I didn't look back from the decision.

We were admitted. I was in so much pain, but it was so unreal. Matt and I kept looking at each other in between contractions and going "OMG WE'RE GOING TO MEET OUR BABY!" I was brought to the room I would labor in, and they hooked me up to an IV. While they were hooking me up, matt played me a video of Claude giving me her paw, and I lost it and started hysterically crying. It was all so overwhelming, and the pain was so strong at that point. Minutes later they came in and put the epidural into my back, and after that labor became a COMPLETELY different experience. This was around 11PM.

Within minutes my contractions were like minor cramps. It was INSANE. But the best part was that they didn't slow down at all, which was my biggest fear. They were still coming every 1-2 minutes consistently. I called my best friend in California, and texted my family and friends, and relaxed in bed seriously fearing what it would mean to push the baby out. I was really nervous for that part.

At 3AM they came in and told me I was at 6cm. They said they were going to break my water and start me on pitocin to speed things up, and then my contractions intensified a bit more (but still nothing too bad at all!) They checked me again at 7AM and told me that I WAS 9.5 CM DILATED AND WE WERE READY TO HAVE THE BABY SO SOON! I began to throw up, which they said was a sign we were really close. My parents and brother came at 8AM, and waited in the room until it was time to push. It was really such a peaceful morning, and such a sunny and beautiful Fall day. Finally at 11:30AM they asked me to do a practice round pushing. During the practice round, they told me to stop because they could see his head!

Minutes later they were suited up and we were pushing! I was still on the epidural so I felt minor contractions, but none of the intense pain that is talked about. Matt was standing to my right, and when Hudson was born he cut the cord! We did skin to skin right away, and all everyone kept saying was how much hair he had! They initially told me he was around 7 lbs, but when they weighed him they said "8.7 lbs!!" and we could NOT believe that he fit inside of me! He opened his eyes and looked right at me and then at Matt from my chest, and it is a moment I will never ever forget.

It's all been a whirlwind since then! I feel really sore, but so overwhelmed with love for this tiny person that we made. I actually miss him when he isn't in sight for just seconds. When the hospital took him to the nursery to be weighed, Matt and I were counting the minutes until we could get him back. It's a love I didn't know I was capable of, and it's incredible what our bodies can achieve. It's been an amazing, challenging and beautiful journey and I can't wait to spend the rest of our life with Hudson in our clan! How lucky are we?!

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Saturday, November 12, 2016

World, Meet Hudson!

... and just like that, life will never ever be the same again.

Hudson David Degreff | 8 lbs 7 ounches & 21 inches

Born on November 7th at 11:40 am

I can't really think of the right words to describe what it feels like to become a mom. It's so overwhelmingly beautiful, and the love I feel for my husband and my baby is a love I didn't realize I could feel. I know it's cliche, but it's the truth. He is my favorite favorite thing to ever happen to me, and I could just stare at him all day.

It's been a little crazy over here with family visiting to meet Hudson, and Matt and I existing on not very much sleep and figuring this little guy out. I'll be sharing more on the day he was born and my story soon, I promise! 

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Friday, November 11, 2016

Seasonal Nostalgia

Paid for by Refinery29 and Hallmark Keepsake Ornaments

A few years back, Matt and I decided to pack a carry-on, fly cross-country to California, and rent a VW van to roadtrip & live in to celebrate the holiday season. It's my favorite holiday adventure to date, and we dream of repeating it all the time. We named our VW "Sunny Delight" and spent Christmas Eve in Carmel wandering the shops and drinking coffee in the van. We felt like we took a trip back to the 1960's, our favorite era. A few of you who have followed for a while probably remember this trip!

The funny thing about this seemingly perfect adventure is that this trip did not end on a high note. Our trusty old VW Van ended up breaking down just in time for Christmas, and we were left stranded. That's the best part of memories - the negatives become whitewashed, and the beautiful moments are always what stand out in our mind, and as we look back on old pictures from the trip, all we can think of is how incredible it was. There's no such thing as a perfect holiday, but there is such a thing as a perfect holiday memory! We're excited to partner with Hallmark Keepsake Ornaments to look back on these holiday moments that may be chaotic at the time, but are always bittersweet when they pass. This adorable ornament brings back all of the good feels of our Christmas trip. 

Make sure to share your own story on Instagram using the hashtag #KeepsakeIt, and find your own perfect ornament to remember holiday season's past at! 

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Sunday, November 6, 2016

Last Post With Belly + Final Thoughts // 40 Weeks!

Pregnancy is weird. I wasn't ever the kind of person who felt like I had maternal instincts, or like my life would revolve around becoming a mom, but I admit I did wonder how my own story would be written, and how I would look with this belly on me. Would we find out we were expecting out of the blue, or would we plan it? Would it take a while for it to happen, or would it be easy for us? Would I throw up or have a huge telltale sign that pushes me to take a pregnancy test, or would it happen after a missed period? I wondered these things a lot - almost as much as I now wonder what my own labor is going to look like when it happens.

But now that I've gone through it, and I know what my story looks like from beginning to end, it's surprisingly not much like how I thought it would be. It was almost... uneventful. Which is a good thing, I'm sure. I kept working, I continued to blog here and besides the number on the scale, not much really changed. Growing a person feels like it happens sooo slowly, but then suddenly they're full-term, and it's like WOAH where did the time go. and then you sit in this weird limbo for a while between having one foot out the door of being pregnant... chatting up new moms, buying clothes that you don't fit into (yet) but soon, and knowing that you're on the brink of this huge life change that you knew you had coming for 9 months, but it didn't quite feel real.

As long as this journey was, and as uncomfortable as it currently is, I understand why moms say they miss being pregnant. This is the end of my time carrying my boy close to my heart, and having him feel my every breath. He squirms when I laugh. He understand when I cry. We're one right now, and soon we will each be on our own in this world. It's beautiful, and happy and sad all at the same time. I am so ready to meet him, but I am trying my best to cherish the end of growing this person who I already love so much it's stupid.

Thank you for coming along with me on this journey, and I can't wait to share what comes next!

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